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If you feel comfortable, you’re not learning. Comfort is not to be confused with “natural”. Comfortable is that awkward, hyper-self aware feeling you get when you’re doing something for the first time…you do remember your first time
?Learning leads to growth. Growth leads to advancement and evolution. The only way to really learn and grow is to get outside your comfort zone, try and fail.
Failure leads to success. The more failures you have, the greater your successes will be. Most people quit well before they start to see real success. That is why they are most people. Most people think that being uncomfortable and failing is a result of their ineptitude. They think poor performance is due to their lack of natural talent.
Lack of skill is not lack of talent. Skill is modified behavior. This takes time. The more simple the movement or the concept, the easier it is to modify your behavior. The more complicated and convoluted the longer the behavior takes to master. Pretty straight forward concept.
Learning and growing is the key. It leads to self discovery, self improvement and enriches the lives of the people around you. It keeps you young by reminding you of a time when you didn’t know all the answers.
When you stay in your comfort zone your world gets smaller and smaller and gradually shrinks. This is what happens to most people. They hit a point where they work, they live, they basically just exist. Then they reach their 40’s and 50’s and lose their minds. They become depressed, question their purpose in life and wonder is this as good as it’s going to get? They blame their jobs, their spouses and their kids. The count all the missed opportunities and all that they sacrificed so that they could provide a life for their families. The wrap themselves up in self pity and point a finger at the outside world when in reality, they only have themselves to blame.
At the end of the day YOU are the problem. YOU make the choices because YOU decided to play it safe. It’s YOUR FAULT. Not your spouse, not your kids, not your job. Regular people make excuses, exceptional people take action. Taking action requires you to step outside your comfort zone. It could be small at first, making a suggestion at work, taking a pottery class- whatever it is, start small and take bigger steps.
Teaching people to protect themselves is not just about learning to kick ass. In fact, that’s the easy part. It’s a tool to enable people to have more confidence, more self reliance and more self worth. It helps people overcome their fear of the unknown. It’s a major step in the right direction.
Today is the day. Do something you would normally say NO to. Do something a little impulsive. STOP sitting on your ass, get out of your comfort zone and SEIZE THE DAY BY THE CAJONES!!!!
Yep, it’s Sunday Morning and I’m already full of piss and vinegar.
Damian Ross
The Most Lethal Self Defense Program in the World
The Self Defense Company
The Self Defense Training System
Martial Arts
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Damian wrote:If you feel comfortable, you’re not learning. Comfort is not to be confused with “natural”. Comfortable is that awkward, hyper-self aware feeling you get when you’re doing something for the first time…you do remember your first time?
Learning leads to growth. Growth leads to advancement and evolution. The only way to really learn and grow is to get outside your comfort zone, try and fail.
Failure leads to success. The more failures you have, the greater your successes will be. Most people quit well before they start to see real success. That is why they are most people. Most people think that being uncomfortable and failing is a result of their ineptitude. They think poor performance is due to their lack of natural talent.
Lack of skill is not lack of talent. Skill is modified behavior. This takes time. The more simple the movement or the concept, the easier it is to modify your behavior. The more complicated and convoluted the longer the behavior takes to master. Pretty straight forward concept.
Learning and growing is the key. It leads to self discovery, self improvement and enriches the lives of the people around you. It keeps you young by reminding you of a time when you didn’t know all the answers.
When you stay in your comfort zone your world gets smaller and smaller and gradually shrinks. This is what happens to most people. They hit a point where they work, they live, they basically just exist. Then they reach their 40’s and 50’s and lose their minds. They become depressed, question their purpose in life and wonder is this as good as it’s going to get? They blame their jobs, their spouses and their kids. The count all the missed opportunities and all that they sacrificed so that they could provide a life for their families. The wrap themselves up in self pity and point a finger at the outside world when in reality, they only have themselves to blame.
At the end of the day YOU are the problem. YOU make the choices because YOU decided to play it safe. It’s YOUR FAULT. Not your spouse, not your kids, not your job. Regular people make excuses, exceptional people take action. Taking action requires you to step outside your comfort zone. It could be small at first, making a suggestion at work, taking a pottery class- whatever it is, start small and take bigger steps.
Teaching people to protect themselves is not just about learning to kick ass. In fact, that’s the easy part. It’s a tool to enable people to have more confidence, more self reliance and more self worth. It helps people overcome their fear of the unknown. It’s a major step in the right direction.
Today is the day. Do something you would normally say NO to. Do something a little impulsive. STOP sitting on your ass, get out of your comfort zone and SEIZE THE DAY BY THE CAJONES!!!!
Yep, it’s Sunday Morning and I’m already full of piss and vinegar.
Damian Ross
The Most Lethal Self Defense Program in the World
The Self Defense Company
The Self Defense Training System
Martial Arts
Self Defense[/quote:3af6abwy]Very excellent post Damian….most likely your best. I hope the forum members really let it set in and become theres.
Took me about 30 years to really get this myself and is the one of the foundamentals to building a quality life. My moniker here is the one percenter not as a outlaw biker but as one percentent of the folks that get it.
When I reallyu knew I got this concept when a good friend of mine made excuse after excuse for me about something I failed at….all where true of course…and I smiled at him and said…Dude thats all true but at the end of the day its on me….its my business….besides I have learned alot in this and its more valueable than anything…. We only grow and become stronger in failure…You watch this is gonna be good for me in the long run… He looked at me like clowns had just run out of my ears…. In the end I was right…What I call red lining is ALWAYS good for YOU!
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The “Red Lining” excellent!!!
Accountability, introspection…awesome. Failure is just that, it’s the world trying to tell you something. I started several businesses that have lead to bigger and better things…all of which were NOTHING I ever imagined.
The hardest thing to do is to realize the opportunity and to know when to let go and move. Both of those instincts can only come from a few failures (or a few more).
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THIS is the kind of stuff I like to read. The physical aspect of anything from self-protection to money management to diet is a small percentage compared to the psychological and mental aspect.
I loved this post. Brilliant and simple.
There is no such thing as failure. Suicide is failure because you’re friggin dead. Other than that, you cannot fail.
You will never fail, you will only learn a lesson.
Thank God for folks like Abraham Lincoln who kept getting his ass kicked in every office he ran for…and then became the second greatest President in the history of the United States.
I believe that the greater one’s destiny, the greater the adversity and “failure” they will have to overcome. And all adversity is a state of mind.
I love being around people and listening to people who kick my ass when needed. Even I can indulge myself on occasion. Then I get disgusted and kick my own ass.
This was like what I said about hatred being of two types; you can hate failure in that you try to avoid it, or you can hate it in that you don’t care if you fail because you are confident that you will ultimately Prevail.
Failure is a battle, but you are fighting a war.
Look at the Boston Celtics. They went 27/27 the last 54 games of the season, yet look where they are now. That team has a unique character.
I seriously really enjoyed this post from Mr. Ross. America as a whole needs more of this, because we have gradually been conditioned to believe that everything’s supposed to be easy…like it is for the rich people. Little do we acknowledge that the average rich person busted their ass like you wouldn’t believe to attain their success. They should be admired.
Yesterday morning I helped a guy pour concrete for a foundation around his garage. This after digging the 24″ deep trench around it a few days earlier. That trench was a bitch like you wouldn’t believe. Roots, thick clay soil, slabs of concrete down there that I had to smash and hack through. Talk about edge of hand blows. Every obstacle was a “failure,” if you will. Digging through clay soil inch by inch and hitting concrete and roots can be a bit demoralizing. But smashing through all that was pretty damn satisfying, I must say. Then, we’re pouring the concrete, and not even halfway through the guy informs me that we’ve got five minutes left with the mixing truck out front before the guy’s got to pay more. So now we’re literally sprinting up and down the driveway to his backyard with wheelbarrows full of concrete. And we did beat the deadline. Of course we did, you son of a bitch. You want a good workout give that a shot. You do that and you won’t need any self-defense training. You can take on a damn army.
By the way, I find that when I get into my zone where I’m busting my ass like Satan is coming for my soul that other people are motivated to step it up – way, way up – just out of pure shame, without me saying a word. There’s a lesson about leadership there. In fact, when I’m that focused I’m really not a nice person, but who’s gonna argue with a guy who’s working that hard? Even if you hate my guts you are compelled to respect me.
I have a saying that it is when you are weak that you are strong because when you feel weak you are really growing stronger. But when you feel strong you are really weak because you are not being tested.
So remember this when you are pushed to your limits. You may feel weak, but this is *proof* that you are strong…
…because you are still going. Still going is still growing.
I like what Mr. Ross said about skill vs talent. Self-protection is a skill, even though some people have naturally good instincts. However, instincts can be conditioned through repetition and visualization.
Let me briefly emphasize the power of visualizing the SDTS in your mind in addition to physically practicing it. Very powerful. In your mind, you have the ability to execute with perfect precision every single time. Visualize that guy’s head exploding and body parts disintegrating.
That’s the thing: even when encountering obstacles you *don’t* have to fill your mind with them. Instead, you impose your vision on your experience and blast through all that. Visualize triumph.
Never complain. Complaining is proof that you don’t envision success. Complaining empowers adversity because your mind has accepted it.
Why complain about something that’s about to be destroyed?
Great frickin post here, Mr. Ross. This is the best one I’ve read on here. Stuff like this is even more important that the SDTS because it is the foundation upon which the SDTS rests.
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One thing I would like to add. I used to work on the water. Crab potting, turtling, trapping, oystering, fishing and working in seafood businesses. It’s all I did till I was 20. In fact I really liked it a lot. I was good at it. Working in the seafood business you cook seafood and wait for people to walk in the door.
But then I went to work in the construction business. I ahve to say I hated it so much. All the drunks and dope heads you had to work with. Having to wear a hard hat when it was 100 degrees. I did this for 4 years.
I have to say I’d rather do somethign I loved to do than do something you hate even making a lot more money.
Doing something you hate makes you old fast. You are so miserable. Hoping the place would burn down so you wouldn’t have to go to work that day. -
kickassntakenames wrote:One thing I would like to add. I used to work on the water. Crab potting, turtling, trapping, oystering, fishing and working in seafood businesses. It’s all I did till I was 20. In fact I really liked it a lot. I was good at it. Working in the seafood business you cook seafood and wait for people to walk in the door.
But then I went to work in the construction business. I ahve to say I hated it so much. All the drunks and dope heads you had to work with. Having to wear a hard hat when it was 100 degrees. I did this for 4 years.
I have to say I’d rather do somethign I loved to do than do something you hate even making a lot more money.
Doing something you hate makes you old fast. You are so miserable. Hoping the place would burn down so you wouldn’t have to go to work that day.[/quote:3jubrmfa]A pity going to high school wasn’t something you loved.
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