Where Are Your F#CKING Manners?

“You would NEVER speak to me like that if you were standing in front me” is the thought that popped into my head during another email exchange with what I assume to be a human being yesterday.

The internet is great for a lot of things, but it has deteriorated the way in which we communicate and has caused a serious lack of respect in the way we treat one another. There is underlying hate that runs in our society and I believe it’s being perpetuated by the social media.

This is the exchange I received yesterday. This woman, Dawn, was upset because she filled out her name and email to get 4 free lessons and knock out cheat sheet here: https://www.myselfdefensetraining.com she filled in her name and email.

Now the problem was that our automated system made a mistake and was putting N/A in the name field. So when she received her automated message it was addressed to “N/A”. (We are in the process of correcting the problem and I apologize). 

A normal person would send a message like “Hi, I filled out my name in your form and it addressed the message to N/A, you might want to look at this.”

That’s it, a normal response to a simple problem. Now before I post her words and our exchange you need to realize something.

1. She got exactly what was promised.

2. It did not cost her anything.

Our automated email to Dawn

“Hi N/A,

Recently, we’ve been surveying people who were thinking about signing up for The Self Defense Training System, and one question we get asked a lot is ‘How does this work’.

So, we’re holding free webinars (if you don’t know already, a ‘webinar’ is an online meeting) today and tomorrow to show you exactly how it works.  The Self Defense Training System will give you everything you need to know about self defense – from the basic to the brutal, and we hope you’ll join us on the call for the details.

You can register for the call here:

https://www.myselfdefensetraining.com/event-registration/

Train honestly,

Damian Ross”

Response from Dawn Ve#### (ve#####.#75@gmail.com)

“Wtf how rude you say Hi n/a….. What the f~~k is wrong with my god damn name….signed up with a name……use the damn thing.. Bitches”

My Response to Dawn

“You’re gone. Good bye.”

Response from Dawn Ve#### (ve#####.#75@gmail.com)

“Good fuck you prick! Thankx & fuck off”

My Response to Dawn

“Don’t go away mad…just go away.”

Response from Dawn Ve#### (ve#####.#75@gmail.com)

“Got a piece of I don’t give a fuck for you pussy. Big man through the internet huh! Your nothing but a bitchass nigga in my book homes..eat me motherfucker!”

My final response to Dawn is this blog post.

“Dear Ms. Ven####,

You have been black listed from the Self Defense Company and your IP address has been banned. I will not tolerate this behavior and will not have Self Defense Company staff, instructors and employees deal with people like you.

I definitely DO NOT want you to know any of the Self Defense Company tactics and training. I will not share my life’s work with someone like you for any amount of money.

In short – you are what’s wrong with society. The “freedom” of the internet has emboldened you to spew what ever discontent and hate that pops into your brain without any thought to how the world views you.

You have no self respect and you have an overwhelming sense of entitlement.

You are what’s wrong with this world. You’re why people will ignore cries for help – you’re selfish and you give zero consideration to others.

I’m glad you responded in the way you did, if you didn’t, I might have let you in the gate.

Good bye Dawn.”

My only suggestion to anyone who wants to be taken seriously is to post comments as if you were standing in front of that person. Send emails as if we were having a conversation. Be polite, give the benefit of the doubt until you realize you’re being scammed.

I know the internet is full of people who give you nothing for something, it makes my life harder to convince you that what I have is something of value. But you need to think before you post, you need to think before you write. The internet has made interaction too fast, too easy and strangely personal and anonymous at the same time.

I feel this is the reason that the nature of violence and disregard for one another has escalated. When people spew their hate and others join in, it creates an acceptance and a culture of hate. It confirms negative behavior and gives it justification. It’s like a mob mentality only now it’s scaled to maximum proportions with social media.

We need to start injecting manners into what we do and how we live – give a little respect first, then if it’s not reciprocated, you know how to deal with that person.

Don’t be a Dawn.

Train Honestly,

Damian Ross
The Self Defense Company