The Secret of Success is in Your Failures
Success equals survival. A successful hunter ate that night, while the ones who failed went hungry.
The benefits of success are obvious. Beyond compensation – success gives you a sense of accomplishment, increased self worth and self-actualization. The by-products are confidence and attitude or as we like to call…swagger!
While these psychological effects of accomplishment motivate us to success, they do little in actually helping us become successful. The real technical growth, the “nuts and bolts” or the actionable items for success lay in your failure.
There’s far more to be gained from your losses than your triumphs.
Every loss exposes a need for improvement. It’s when you fail, that you look inside yourself to determine what went wrong and how to correct it. On the contrary, after victory, you tend to focus on the achievement of your goal rather than the mistakes you made. When the mission is accomplished, it’s time to move on, not re-evaluate. Your very nature allows you to enjoy the accomplishment and gain confidence and attitude.
Every loss, each injury holds an opportunity for adaptation and growth. In order to do that you need to be honest and critical with yourself which isn’t an easy thing to do.
Most times people tend to point the finger at outside forces and fail to take accountability for their actions. This is where your average person gets stuck because it takes courage to look in the mirror and give an honest assessment. When you begin with “What am I doing wrong?” you’re on the right path.
Each mistake brings you one step closer to success.
All natural ability aside, what separates the good from the not so good and the God-awful, is the ability to take that real long and hard look in the mirror and take stock.
Never make excuses. Excuses are like a$$holes – we all have them and they all stink :)
If you make excuses, you will remain stay there; technically, emotionally, mentally and physically. You’ll be forced to repeat the same failure over and over again.
Remember, every career, every life, is replete with failure and setback. It’s up to you to develop the habit of getting up again and again taking stock and owning your mistake. That’s how you get a little smarter and a little tougher.
Training is symbolic of life.
When you miss a technique or have difficulty learning a skill, you practice to improve and become competent at that skill. When you’re injured you train to work with your injury. If you’re too old, too short, too fat or too skinny – you need to compensate for those factors and adapt to accomplish your goal.
Self defense training is NOT for the person you will be tomorrow, but for the person you are RIGHT NOW.
No one is the perfect physical specimen forever. Every state of fitness and youth is TEMPORARY.
Last week we concluded a five-week training course with a group who had a wide variety of disabilities from slight learning issues to severe physical disabilities.
The amazing thing about each of them is that they know how to adapt and over come. From the first day of their lives they’ve had to overcome their conditions to live in the “normal world.” So adapting their skills to self defense was no big deal – they do it all the time. There was a lot to be learned from that incredible group of people.
Setbacks are a part of life – you’ll never be 100%. You will never be perfect. There will always be something wrong. It’s how you handle your setbacks and obstacles that make you who you are.
Training is about overcoming adversity.
Too busy, too old, too tired – adversity. Life will always tell you “NO”. If you want to succeed you need to learn from your failures – ignore life’s NO and stop listening for excuses and start looking for solutions.
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