Some people actually believe that any self defense advice is good. To that I ask you, is any medical advice good? Is any nutrition or exercise advice good?
Of course not…so it’s safe to say…
Not all Self Defense Advice is GOOD.
If you spent any time in a martial arts or self defense class you probably heard one of these seven statements and when you do…it’s a good time to leave the class.
The Seven Signs Your Instructor is Full of Sh!t
1. Always Walk Away.
Do you mean turn your back on a potential threat? What if I have my kids with me? Do I leave them or do I tuck them under each arm and run???
I don’t understand this statement and for the life of me, I really don’t know why someone would tell another human being to do this ALL OF THE TIME.
I’m sure most victims of violent crime tried to walk away at one point or another but unfortunately the animal attacking them had other plans.
You should never turn your back on any threat that is close enough to impose their will on you…EVER.
2. I Train to Fight so I don’t have to Fight.
Bruce Lee gets credit for this quote. He’s the same guy who claims to have fought in “hundreds” of street fights in China so much for ‘not fighting’.
Personally “I train to fight so I can fight back.”
Do I like to fight…no of course not. I don’t enjoy hurting another human being, but I accept the responsibility and embrace my INSTINCT to protect and defend.
Accept that violence will happen and go into it reluctantly, but ready.
3. Violence Never Solves Anything.
Maybe not, but it sure stops a lot of stuff like rape, murder, WWII and Flight 93…should I keep going?
There are many people on this earth who use violence to intimidate, impose their will and take whatever they can. These animals only understand power and pain. The only way to stop them is with power and pain.
4. Violence is Never the Answer.
On the contrary, sometimes violence is the only answer. Violence is an immediate and effective means of correcting anti-social behavior.
Violence is a short term solution to an immediate problem.
I wouldn’t try to rehabilitate a criminal by beating him on a daily basis just as I wouldn’t try to counsel a man who was kicking in my front door.
5. Use Non-Lethal Techniques First.
This notion comes from the “escalation of force” concept. Escalation of force applies to police work and basically comes down to verbal commands, physical and mechanical use of force and finally deadly use of force.
This concept is constantly misapplied.
When it comes to self defense, once you’ve made the decision to use force you have only one obligation – survive and stop the threat as fast as possible by whatever means possible.
The question you need to ask is what exactly is a non-lethal technique?
There’s no classification in any law book that details what specific techniques you can use.
There’s only legal use of force and excessive force and that gets determined by a judge and jury…and a GOOD LAWYER. Police enforce the law, lawyers and judges argue the law. There’s a difference and you should know it.
when it comes to self defense, it’s better to go in hard and slow down AFTER you’ve dominated the situation than to go in soft and “escalate” to meet your attacker’s use of force.
Don’t put yourself one step behind your attacker.
6. Always let your attacker, attack first.
This is NUTS! Yet many, many experts train to let their attacker do this.
Would to let an ex-boxer throw the first punch?!?!?!
This is left over from the schoolyard – “always let him throw the first punch” which may work with 4th graders, but in the real world against an unknown attacker of unknown ability – you’re going to get smashed.
Waiting for the punch, grab or any attack is too late. A good street fighter is going to attack you with a barrage of punches, stabs and any other means possible to beat you into the earth. Letting him “attack first” will assure your failure…unless he REALLY SCREWS UP – but I’m not taking that chance.
The insanity is – literally EVERY school of self defense promotes this behavior and trains you to let him attack first!!!
What do you do in class — You line up with your partner, let him get close and wait for him to attack. Against a real threat in the real world the fight is over…
..and you will never have a chance to do that fancy move you pay $300 a month to learn.
What you need to do is put yourself in a position of advantage and identify the intent of your threat BEFORE he makes a move.
7. Always fight ‘honorably’.
Let’s make one thing clear – LIVE HONORABLY, but FIGHT DIRTY.
Once the decision is made to go, then you need to go all in, no BS.
Never put yourself at risk by training in tactics that enable your attacker to “slip away.”
In fact, the safest and most humane thing to do is to end the conflict as fast as possible.
Your safety comes first – not your attacker’s safety.
Going into a real fight with the notion that you’re superior just because you go to a gym and that your attacker is “untrained” is a HUGE mistake.
Most of the scariest people you will ever meet never spent a day in a dojo. What makes them dangerous isn’t their strength or their techniques, it’s their will to do anything it takes to get what they want.
You must be willing to do the same.
The hardest thing you will ever have to do is come to the realization that violence happens and you need to take that first step.
There are people who use violence to get want they want. To defeat these animals you must be willing to do whatever it takes to save yourself and the people you care about.
It’s the only true way.